Sucker For Love: If She's not into you , keep it moving

For every guy that has been friend zoned, looked over, and watched a girl they've liked end up with the wrong guy......THIS IS FOR YOU 

When a guy likes a girl sometimes he can be blind to what can be so obvious which is, she's just not feeling you. Whether you're friends or just meeting a woman, she usually has an idea of where things may lead. Sometimes you hold on to this hope that the one you want will eventually feel the same way you do. You always hope after every failed dating attempt or relationship somehow they will end in your arms. I'm not one to encourage this but sometimes you have to just throw in the towel and give it up. 

One of the scariest places you can ever be is the "friend zone". Women sometimes know just how to keep you at bay. If a woman is bringing up other guys then clearly this means she truly sees you as nothing more than a friend. I know they say "keep hope alive" but sometimes you have to chick the deuce and give up. You can't let 1,2,3 years pass and you still hold out hope for that one person despite who either one of you may have around. I think what happens with a lot of guys myself included is that you fall for the idea of the woman.

The idea of what a woman could be and what a woman actually is can be a tricky battle. You hear her talk about how she does x,y, and z for dudes she used to be involved with and you get hooked. Don't get too caught up in the possibility of a person but rather the reality of them. I can tell you myself many times I've fallen  for what I thought a person can be for me rather than who they actually are. Things that are meant to happen will happen but after a certain amount of time it's best to move on. You have to tell yourself "if she wanted me she would've had me". I can never fault the woman because they shouldn't have to force themselves to feel something. A man shouldn't have to "convince" a woman to be with them, it should be something she wants. 

Staying true to yourself is very important. If you're a nice guy then continue to be that nice guy don't change because your think women want "badboy". I was in a situation where no matter what woman I dealt with my mind always was locked in on this one particular girl. Today she is one of my closest friends but I had feelings for her for years. I too would hold out hope that maybe she'd finally come to me and I would even foolishly drop who I was with for her. After a while I just told myself "you know if she wanted you it would've happened already". She knew how I felt so the fact nothing ever came of it should've been a sign to just stop feeling her. Over time any romantic feelings I had for her died. It's definitely easier said than done but you have to realize if she doesn't want you there are plenty out there who do. 

Moving forward don't be that guy that gives advice to just push her away from who she's dating. If she's your friend then be happy that she's happy. I made the mistake once of sometimes giving advice to push someone away from whoever I thought was bad for them. At times I get teased for having a lot of lady friends it def wasn't my intention to have a lot but...hey shit happens. Years later I realized some of the friends I've actually had feelings for probably wouldn't be the best fit for me dating wise so that helped ease the blow. 

Many of you won't ever admit to feeling this way but that's what I'm here for. I've been that friend-zoned. Guy who would hope the girl he wanted would eventually choose him. I'm here to admit to the things most won't, if you feel this is you then I am your voice.